Decision Making Process

  1. Think about it
  2. Pray
  3. Read Scripture that is related to the decision
  4. Meditate on this Scripture (and other Scripture)
  5. Think some more
  6. Pray
  7. Over think it
  8. Seek wise counsel
  9. Pray more
  10. Make a decision

I have trouble getting caught up in steps 1 through 9.

Complementarian Swing Dancing

The way the man must lead the woman (“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”) to make her look good (“Husbands, love your wives”) is a beautiful picture of complementarianism in action. We could all learn a lot from dancing. I think I’ll go more often.

Current Reading

In progress:

  • 1 Corinthians – The Apostle Paul
  • Death By Love – Mark Driscoll
  • When Sinners Say “I Do” – Dave Harvey
  • Systematic Theology – Wayne Grudem
  • Seeing And Savoring Jesus Christ – John Piper
  • The Light Fantastic – Terry Pratchett
  • Living By The Book – Howard Hendricks

In queue:

  • Worldliness – C.J. Mahaney
  • Mortification of Sin – John Owen
  • The Myth of Certainty – Daniel Taylor
  • Hebrews – Unknown
  • Lots of Spurgeon
  • More Discworld Novels – Terry Pratchett

Roles and Adoption

I just have to share these two articles.

  1. The first is part 1 of a series that C.J. Mahaney is writing on Roles. It’s a long read but a fantastic view of our situations and vocations. I don’t quite get it all yet, but this is something that I’ve been processing a lot since entering the working world.
  2. The second is part 3 of a series of reflections on the recent adoption of a little girl Mya. All three of these posts have touched me, but this one resonated so clearly with my desire to fulfill James 1:27 in my own life (specifically through adoption and working with the elderly). I hope and pray that everyone who reads these posts are convicted to adopt as well.

Grace and Peace!

A Glimpse

A glimpse into the life of Scott:

I am folding my jeans dancing to Michael Buble’s cover of Crazy Little Thing Called Love at 1am.

The ridiculousness of the situation demanded that it be shared.

Reflections on Adoption

This just seemed like a very honest word. Until the last paragraph broke my heart. I have a good friends who is adopted. Reading this reminded me of how he talks about it, how if his mom had decided on an abortion he’d be dead, how much his parents love him, how he can appreciate his adoption by God through his adoption by his parents. The Lord is moving in my heart; I think that if I ever am blessed with a family, we will adopt.

Reflections on Our Adoption – Part 1

Bonding with your adoptive child is very different than bonding with your biological children, especially for the mother.

With our first three kids, my wife had nine months of literal physical connection with this child inside of her, another 9 months or so of breast-feeding (I am told this is a very bonding experience with a child), and the child most-likely looks very similar to one of the parents, so there is a visual bond as well.

With an adopted child none of these experiences occur. We had three weeks to get used to the idea from the time we verbally committed to the time we picked her up. No breast feeding, and this black child couldn’t look any less different than the rest of our family. (We are about as white bread as they come.) These factors contribute to the bonding process taking a bit longer. For me it hasn’t really sunk in yet that she is ours. It kind of feels like we have a precious little visitor in our home right now. It’s quite surreal.

None of these sentiments speaks to regret in the least, it’s just me being honest with some feelings that dance around the edges. I have heard from other adoption parents that this is pretty much universally the case with adoptive parents who first had biological children. It just takes longer. Nothing to worry about, just embrace the reality and be patient.

These feeling have been challenging, but I am left to ask this question as well: What part of our adoption by The Father was easy? Cross-bearing is never easy, in fact the cost is exceedingly great, but the blessing is also mind blowingly great as well. By adopting sinners, did not our Father adopt children into his family that were infinitely different than Him?